Words can be very powerful things. While they can’t break your bones, they can cause a lot 
of pain. Divorce is a really painful process anyway. You can make life less difficult for you and your ex by trying to stay positive in the negotiation process.Here are some thoughts on preparing for an effective negotiation whether it is in mediation or another process.
1.Establish a focus and listen
One of the key components to effective negotiation is to listen to the other party (really listen!) and focus on the problem. How you express yourself and how you react to the other party impacts the productiveness of the dialogue. Stay away from personal attacks as they create stress and do not lead to good results.
2.Choice of process
Examine the different processes available for resolution of the issues and choose one that feels comfortable for both parties. Research how each process works to determine whether it is the right one for your situation. Examples are mediation, collaborative law and direct or kitchen table negotiation.
3.Time Management
Establish a realistic time frame for how and when the negotiation will take place. Understand what information is needed to make decisions, how and when it will be produced and who will take responsibility for gathering the information.
4.Focus on the future not the past
Establish priorities and then, after all of the necessary information is collected and understood, stay flexible and take a careful look at options for resolution.
5.Be creative
Solutions are usually richer when both parties spend their energy considering options, alternatives and “what-ifs” that work for both parties.
Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.
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