How Will Getting Divorced Affect Social Security Benefits?

If you are contemplating divorce and are concerned about financial planning, you are worryprobably wondering about what the Social Security consequences would be if they were divorced. Many questions need to be answered.

We got the following information from the Social Security Administration website:

  • If you are age 62-plus, were married 10 years or more, and are currently unmarried (and you are not entitled to receive a higher benefit based on your own work), you can receive benefits based on your ex’s earnings, even if he or she remarried.
  • If you both worked, the lower earner may receive benefits based on the higher earner’s work.
  • If you never worked, you can collect benefits on your ex’s work, and your ex is still eligible to collect what he or she has earned over the years.
  • If your ex hasn’t yet applied, but qualifies for benefits, you can still receive benefits if you have been divorced for two years.
  • You can collect a divorced spouse’s benefits without reducing the amount of your ex’s benefit.
  • The longer you wait to collect divorced spousal benefits, up to your full retirement age, the higher your benefit will be.

If you have questions about divorce, child custody or other family law matters, perhaps you should consult with Steven Hair. Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor. For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com

or call (727) 726-0797.

States Can Take Your Child Support

According to an article in the New York Times, the collection of child support from absentchild support fathers is failing to help many of the poorest families, in part because the government uses fathers’ payments largely to recoup welfare costs rather than passing on the money to mothers and children.

Close to half the states pass along none of collected child support to families on welfare, while most others pay only $50 a month to a custodial parent, usually the mother, even though the father may be paying hundreds of dollars each month.

Critics say using child support to repay welfare costs harms children instead of helping them, contradicting the national goal of strengthening families, and is a flaw in the generally lauded national campaign to increase collections.

Karla Hart, a struggling mother of four here, held out her monthly statement from the county child-support office.

Paid by the father: $229.40.

Amount deducted to repay federal costs of welfare: $132.18.

Her share: $97.22. “That extra money was a bill I could pay,” said Ms. Hart, 56, who has lupus and other serious ailments but against her doctor’s advice has started working at a day care center, in a failing effort to achieve solvency.

Reflecting a growing, bipartisan sense that diverting child support money to government coffers is counterproductive, Congress, in the Deficit Reduction Act passed in early 2006, took a modest step toward change. Beginning in 2009, states will be permitted to pass along up to $100 for one child and $200 for two or more children, with the state and federal governments giving up a share of welfare repayments they have received in the past.

The Bush administration has set a goal of increasing the share of collections distributed to families and reducing the amount retained by the government. But the drive to reduce the budget deficit has gotten in the way. As part of last-minute budget crunching, the Republican-controlled Congress in that same act reduced by 20 percent the child-support enforcement money it gives to the states, starting this fall. Many states say the effort to force them to pay more of the enforcement costs will impede collections and prevent them from passing more money on to needy families.

“There was a real groundswell toward the idea of giving more of the money, or even all of it, to the families,” said Vicki Turetsky, an expert on child support at the Center for Law and Social Policy in Washington. But that momentum has been stopped short, she said, by the financing change.

Ms. Hart was luckier than most mothers in her position because for more than eight years, under a federally approved experiment, Wisconsin gave all money collected from noncustodial parents to the families. When the experiment ended last year, she lost most of the check.

“My daughter told me this morning that she needed $9 for something at school, and I was like, ‘But I have to pay the rent,’” Ms. Hart said. “I gave it to her, and now I have to find that money someplace else.”

Barry A. Miller, the chief of the North Carolina child support office, said North Carolina, like about half of all states, passed no support money on to families. “We were seriously considering a change, but it’s doubtful we could do that now,” said Mr. Miller, who is also the president of the National Council of Child Support Directors. In North Carolina and elsewhere, lost federal aid may instead force cuts in personnel and enforcement.

On Nov. 15, 24 governors from both parties sent a letter to Congress asking it to repeal the cuts, arguing that they would hurt one of the government’s most cost-effective programs, which raises more than $4 in child support for every $1 spent on enforcement.

The intensified national effort over the last decade to establish paternity for babies born out of wedlock and to collect more support money, mainly from fathers, is often described as a great success. And indeed, collections have increased significantly, to some $24 billion in 2006 from $12 billion in 1996, helping many families avoid penury.

But for the poorest men and women, the story is mixed. Young fathers with little education or job prospects find themselves in arrears and facing jail time or the loss of their driver’s licenses as a result, making it all the harder to start earning and paying, said David J. Pate Jr., an assistant professor of social work at the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee.

One startling indicator of how pervasively the poor are affected is highlighted by Daniel L. Hatcher, a legal expert on welfare issues at the University of Baltimore School of Law, in a forthcoming law review article. Of the nation’s total uncollected child-support arrears of $105 billion in 2006, Professor Hatcher writes, fully half was owed to the federal and state governments to recover welfare costs, rather than to families.

If you are considering divorce, or have child support or child custody issues, perhaps you should meet with Steve Hair. Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor. For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com or call (727) 726-0797.

How Much Will My Child Support Be?

So you are thinking about getting a divorce. Obviously one of the first things you might be child supportconcerned with is how much your child support will be.

There are a number of factors to be considered in determining child support.

  • Net Monthly Income of Non-Custodial Parent:
  • Net Monthly Income of Custodial Parent:
  • Number of children who are the subject of the pending action:
  • Monthly Cost of daycare paid by Non-Custodial Parent:
  • Monthly cost of daycare paid by Custodial Parent:
  • Monthly cost of Medical, Dental, Vision Insurance paid by Non-Custodial Parent:
  • Monthly cost of Medical, Dental, Vision Insurance paid by Custodial Parent:

There are websites out there with child support calculators that you give you a pretty good idea of what your amount will be. Google “Child Support Calculator Your State” to find one for your state.

Here in Florida, it is important to know that he Florida Child Support Enforcement Program Can Help You.

The Florida Child Support Enforcement Program is administered by the Florida Department of Revenue. They provide a number of services to families that need assistance with child support throughout Florida. There are only two counties in which an alternative organization handles child support services: Miami-Dade County (child support matters are handled by the State Attorney’s Office) and Manatee County (child support matters are handled by the Manatee County Clerk of Court).

Contact the Florida Child Support Enforcement Program for help with any of the following matters related to child support:

Determining Paternity
If you had a child out of wedlock and are not sure who the father is or need to establish legal paternity, the Florida Child Support Enforcement Program can help you. In Florida, there are five ways to establish paternity: marriage, acknowledgement of paternity, administrative order based on genetic testing, court order and legitimation. The Florida Child Support Enforcement Program can assist with all of these methods of determining paternity.

Establishing Child Support Orders
If you do not have a child support order in place, the Florida Child Support Enforcement Program can assist you with applying for court-ordered child support. You must have a child support order through the courts for child support payments to be a legal obligation. It is the goal of the Child Support Enforcement Program to get both parents to agree to the amount of child support based on state guidelines that are in place to help determine appropriate amounts of child support.

Enforcing Child Support Orders
The Florida Child Support Enforcement Program can help enforce child support orders by suspending the offender’s licenses (professional, driver, hunting, fishing, etc.), denying a passport, issuing an income deduction order, intercepting money (IRS tax refunds, lottery winnings, workers’ compensation benefits, unemployment benefits, insurance settlements, etc.), placing liens against property and freezing financial accounts. When all else fails, a negligent parent may be arrested.

Modifying Child Support Orders
Over time, financial and life circumstances change and child support orders need to be modified. Either parent may request a review of an existing support order. For a support order to change, either parent’s financial situation must have changed enough to create at least a 10 percent difference in monthly child support. Generally, a parent must wait at least three years to seek a child support modification.

If you are considering a divorce, perhaps you should consider calling Steven Hair. Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.

Getting Divorced? – take a trip

A trip can help you develop a new attitude. Refer the Las Angeles Times.

PEOPLE sometimes take trips for deep reasons. They’re turning 50 and feel compelled to suitcasesee Florence; they’ve just recovered from an illness and want to trek in the Himalayas; they’re divorcing and need to escape the anguish.

Psychologically motivated trips like these are, in a sense, gambles with life. The transition or crisis makes people more willing to free themselves from routine, feel in a heightened way or make life changes based on events on the road. They are my favorite kinds of trips.

I took one a decade ago, and it changed me. I was in the middle of an ugly divorce, and my life was changing, but into what, I did not know.

I couldn’t find the threshold and didn’t want to walk through the door. Then my parents offered to send me anywhere I wanted to go. I was jobless, childless, husbandless and couldn’t think of a reason to say no, so I took a divorce trip, the polar opposite of a honeymoon.

I’ve heard of women who have gone to swinging singles resorts in the Caribbean after a divorce. One, a beleaguered single mom, came home from such a place on Haiti, having danced every night until dawn with several men who seemed interested in her. She did not get involved but felt more attractive to the opposite sex afterward, no small gift.

“Travel can help you get away from the scene of pain,” says Harriet Lerner, a psychotherapist and author of “The Dance of Connection” (Quill, 2002). “This is especially important because it’s normal to have crashing self-esteem after a divorce.”

A friend of a friend went to a Caribbean island in the throes of divorce and slept with a Frenchman she met on the beach. On the plane home, she wondered what in the world she had been thinking, given the dangers of sexually transmitted disease.

Marilyn Mason, a Santa Fe, N.M., psychologist and author of “Seven Mountains: Life Lessons From a Climber’s Journal” (Penguin Putnam, 1997), says it’s dangerous for disenchanted lovers to travel because they might meet someone who looks better than the spouse back home, thereby precipitating divorce. West L.A. psychotherapist Marion Solomon, author of “Narcissism and Intimacy: Love and Marriage in an Age of Confusion” (W.W. Norton, 1989), says people who feel devastated by divorce should not travel to find someone new. “They have to be careful,” she says. “If they think whoever they meet is going to be a lifelong partner, they might be disappointed.”

Still, travel seems to me as good a prescription for divorce and other traumatic life passages as antidepressants. In the aftermath of a divorce — and before AIDS made people wary about sleeping with strangers — a friend who had just separated from her husband traveled from India to the Mediterranean, where she spent a week on the beach with a man she met on the tour. The two then went their separate ways without looking back.

Sex isn’t mandatory on a divorce trip; other things can be at least as fulfilling. Dunham Gooding, director of the American Alpine Institute in Bellingham, Wash., which sponsors two-week climbs of peaks in Asia, Alaska and South America, doesn’t know precisely what motivates participants.

But he says they are rewarded in ways that could benefit anyone going through the uncertainty and turmoil of an important life passage.

“Entering a landscape as challenging as the mountains is completely absorbing,” Gooding says. “People’s decisions matter and have immediately measurable results.” Moreover, there’s the “psychological refreshment of going into a grandly beautiful place,” as Gooding puts it.

Some of the same benefits accrue from travel of any kind. For me it was a simple trip to Europe, on my own for the first time.

If you are considering a divorce or have other family law problems, consider calling Steven Hair. Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.

Casinos to check for Child Support

Refer Chicago Tribune

The Tribune’s story on proposed legislation that would require casinos to check on winnerwhether big winners owe past due child support (“As others head off deadbeats at casinos, Illinois stands pat” Oct. 04) did not accurately convey the position of the Department of Healthcare and Family Services. The story stated that the department’s stance contributed to the proposal being “stopped cold.” In fact, the department agreed with the intent of the legislation but wanted to work with the sponsor to craft a bill that could be implemented efficiently and in compliance with the federal and state child-support laws that it operates under. These concerns were not an insurmountable obstacle to passage of the proposal.

The department has taken a number of steps in recent years to increase payment pressure on non-custodial parents who fail to meet their obligations. One of these measures, working with the Secretary of State’s Office to block driver’s license renewals for parents who owe past due support, has yielded more than $230 million in past due support alone. We have also worked with the Illinois Department of Natural Resources to block the issuing of hunting and fishing licenses for those with past due support.

We have teamed up with the Illinois Lottery to seize winnings from those with past due obligations. We have also partnered with the Federal government to prevent new passports from being issued to those with past due child support.

These efforts to support children and families have been recognized at the national level: In 2010 the National Child Support Enforcement Association awarded Illinois Outstanding Program of the Year.

In order to implement a system to intercept winnings at casinos, and even race tracks, the department would have to work closely with the casino and race track industries to create a secure, accurate database that could be accessible to the appropriate personnel on a 24/7 basis. We would also need to design a mechanism to transmit the funds to the department so that they can be passed on promptly to the families to which they are due.

Such a system would require more work on the part of the department and the gambling industry, but it would be well worth it if it enables us to recover a greater percentage of the money that children and families are legally owed and depend on for their daily needs. We continue to support a legislative solution to this issue, and look forward to working with all stakeholders to assist children and families across Illinois.

Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.

Sexless Marriage – What to Do

refer Chicago Tribune, June 5 2008

When one partner in a marriage doesn’t want sex, what are options?

What do you do when you’re married and your partner doesn’t want to have sex any more? coupleWhat’s the answer? If counseling doesn’t work or your partner won’t go, what are your options? Divorce? Death? Affairs?

Tom is 55 and his wife, Shelley, is 52. They’ve been married 25 years and have three kids. “I’m a very sexual human being, and my wife isn’t,” says Tom. “When we met I was a 90 on the sexual scale, she was a 60. It’s not that she doesn’t enjoy sex, it’s the frequency that’s the problem for me. So, what should I do? Get a divorce? I’ve got too much invested. Talk it out? I did. Things got better, but then it felt like she was just performing her wifely duty. So, I started having affairs.

“Maybe it’s not for every guy in my position, but for me it’s perfect. No more frustration, no more feeling like I’m sexually inadequate. Having a woman desire me is intoxicating. My lovers think I’m wonderful, and I still have sex with my wife every other month. For me it’s perfect, and everyone’s happy.”

Tom says his first affair “just kind of happened.” He met a woman at the commuter train station who was single and attractive.

“I always tell the women upfront that I’m married. The rest were all married too. I fell in love with one. She was also in love with me. It hurt when it ended, but we went on. I’m very, very careful to make sure my wife never finds out. I’ve been doing it for over 20 years, and she never has. I’m not sure what would happen if she did, but I think we’d survive. I don’t know if any of my friends are doing the same thing; we have a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy.”

I asked Tom if he was happy with his choice. He said, “Not always, but like I said, it beats the alternative.” I asked if he had any negative feelings about what he was doing. He said, “Quite a few, but I guess I want what I want.

“To a lot of people I may sound like a sad case, and maybe what I’m doing isn’t right, but I’ve always been able to separate the emotions. All the women I’ve been with are special. … I’m happy for the sharing experiences. I’m pretty sure my wife is having a non-sexual, emotional affair. If that’s what she needs, I’m happy for her and I can deal with it.”

Justine says she “just filed for divorce this past week” because her husband of 25 years “thought that not having sex was OK. I’m not some sex maniac! I would have been happy with sex once a month and a little affection now and then. But I can count on four fingers how many times we’ve been intimate during the past three to four years. I finally quit asking my husband and decided to cut my losses. He just didn’t think my feelings counted on such an important marital subject. I think it’s a passive-aggressive action on his part, so I took this drastic step and I’m not changing my mind.

“I feel for men whose wives won’t have sex. Tell them I was only one week away from 25 years and I got out and they can too.”

Denise says she met and married the love of her life six years ago. She says her husband had been in a sexless marriage for 45 years until his wife died. “My advice to men in sexless marriages is get out now, not later. There are thousands of women who want a relationship that includes sex. To put yourself through the emotional pain of staying in a marriage that is no longer a marriage is a recipe for disaster. Marriage, to me, includes physical and mental closeness. Any marriage that doesn’t include the two is not a marriage, it’s just a living arrangement with financial bonds.”

Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.

Debate Over Child Custody

refer Chicago Tribune June 1, 2014

Illinois joins debate over child custody disputes

It has been a decade since Richard Thomas was locked in a contentious divorce battle. But child custodythe years have not dimmed the emotional toll of ending a marriage and having limited access to his three children.

“It’s winner take all,” he said of custody arrangements. “You go from being a parent to a visitor … and it’s insulting.”

Thomas, a nurse who lives near Rockford, said he is determined to use his “life experiences” to benefit others mired in similar circumstances. It’s why he has been involved in drafting a shared-parenting proposal in Springfield, although that proposal hasn’t gained traction. Thomas considers another version of the bill moving through the legislature to be watered-down, but others have touted it as a significant overhaul of Illinois family law.

Advocates like Thomas argue that children are better served when they can spend equal time with both parents. They oppose laws that award custody to one parent over another, unless a parent is deemed unfit, and would like the law to mandate that both parties get a minimum percentage of time with their kids.

But opponents — such as the Illinois State Bar Association and the Cook County public guardian’s office — say that if judges are to put children first, they need flexibility, not a one-size-fits-all solution.

It’s a debate that is happening nationwide, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures. Illinois is one of seven states to grapple with legislation about how best to ensure that both parents have a continuing relationship with their kids after a divorce.

For years, family courts would automatically grant custody of offspring to mothers, requiring little of fathers other than the standard arrangement: Every-other-weekend visits, one or two evenings during the week and paying child support, said David Kerpel, a Deerfield-based family law attorney.

In the 1980s, the domestic landscape changed. As more women went to work outside the home, more men became engaged and nurturing caregivers, forging strong ties that benefited their children.

Numerous research studies also supported the notion that youngsters fare better when they are raised by both parents, providing that neither has disorders such as addiction or a history of violence, experts say.

Too often, though, judges still rule as if we’re living in the 1950s, said Dr. Ned Holstein, head of the Boston-based National Parents Organization, formerly called Fathers and Families. The same bias that women encountered in the corporate world is routinely faced by men in the legal system, he said.

“That breakdown of gender roles has been very slow to come to family courts. They are just now being pressured to catch up with the rest of society,” Holstein said.

While about 2 million women nationwide are noncustodial parents, the debate is often framed as a battle of the sexes, with men’s rights groups on one side and feminist groups on the other.

If you have child custody issues, or any other family law concerns, call Steven Hair, attorney at law. Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor,, Florida

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.

Using an Outside Agency to Collect Child Support

Chicago Tribune,  Lisa Black, Oct. 24, 2013

You would probably consider using a collection agency to collect a business debt. Why not consider using an outside agency to collect child support?

According to the Chicago Tribune, Lee Ann Verzi just started receiving child support from her ex-husband last year. Her daughter is 33 years old.

The St. Charles woman turned to a collection agency that specializes in obtaining child child supportsupport after she learned there is no statute of limitations in Illinois. In return, the company, Support Collectors Inc., will keep 30 percent of the total her ex-husband pays.

If you are having problems with child support issues or any other family law situations, give Steven Hair a call.

Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.

How to Pick a Divorce Lawyer

What exactly do you need to know before you hire a lawyer? Here are some questions to ask before you write a retainer check or sign on the dotted line.

The following information was published through “Family Education”

Concerning general experience, ask these questions:girl on the phone

  • How many matrimonial cases have you handled?
  • How many of those cases went to trial? (An attorney who has done a lot of trials might not be a good negotiator. Keep that in mind, especially when the lawyer hasn’t been in practice very long.)
  • How many of these cases involved custody, support, business valuations, large financial settlements, or whatever issue feels like your major concern?
  • Where did you go to law school? (Don’t ask if the diploma is staring you in the face.)
  • Are you experienced in unbundled divorce (or collaborative divorce, or whatever style of divorce you hope to enter)?
  • Do you have the time to take on a new case now?
  • Do you know my husband (or wife)?
  • Do you know his or her attorney?

Ask about day-to-day operations:

  • Will anyone (usually an associate) be assisting you on my case?
  • What is his or her experience?
  • Can I meet the associate now?
  • What work would the associate do and what work would you do?
  • Which one of you will negotiate the case? (If you want to be sure that the lawyer you are seeing is the negotiator, make that clear. You don’t want an intern performing your quadruple bypass surgery, and you don’t want an inexperienced associate you haven’t met negotiating your divorce.)
  • Who will try my case?
  • Are you available to take phone calls?
  • Is the associate available to take calls?
  • What hours are you usually in the office?
  • Do you have any time-consuming trials coming up?
  • Will I get copies of all papers (letters, faxes, legal papers) in my case? (Be sure the answer is “yes.”)

Make sure the fees are clear:

  • What is your hourly billing rate?
  • What is the associate’s billing rate?
  • If both you and the associate are working on my case at the same time, am I billed at your combined rates? (Some firms do that only if two attorneys are needed, such as at trial. Others do it routinely, and others only bill you at the higher attorney’s rate.)
  • Is your fee for trial different from your hourly rate? (Some attorneys charge a set fee for every day they are in court.)
  • Do you charge a retainer, and how much is it?
  • Will the billing arrangements be set out in writing? (Insist that they be.)
  • What happens when the retainer is used up?
  • Will you keep me informed each month as to how much of the retainer has been depleted?
  • What happens if I get behind on the bills?
  • Can you collect your fees from my spouse?
  • How much am I billed for copies of all relevant documents? (If the fee is too high, you might want to make copies on your own.)
  • What extra fees should I expect? (Your retainer will spell out your responsibility for “fees”—what the lawyer charges for his/her time versus “costs”—things like court filing fees, process server fees, excessive postage, messengers, stenographers, or similar out-of-pocket expenses.)
  • Are those fees due in advance, and will I know in advance what they are?
  • Am I billed for telephone calls?
  • Do you have a minimum unit of time you bill me for? (Some lawyers will bill you for 5 or even 15 minutes when a call takes only 4 minutes.

Ask these questions about handling the case:

  • Will I have input in decisions concerning strategy in my case?
  • Will I be kept informed of all developments?
  • What problems do you foresee arising in my case?
  • What are your personal feelings about joint custody versus sole custody? Sometimes a lawyer has strong convictions one way or the other that could potentially affect the outcome of your case despite the fact that your wishes should prevail.
  • Based on your experience, how much do you think my case will cost?

Before you make the final decision to sign on with a lawyer, be sure to fill out the attorney checklist. It will guide you in your decision—and serve as a reminder about your agreement in the months to come.

You’re Hired!

After you have decided whom you want to represent you, a reputable lawyer will send you his or her written agreement concerning fees and will give you time to ask questions about the agreement before you sign it. If a lawyer asks you to sign an agreement in his or her office without giving you the chance to think it over, look for another lawyer. Sometimes it’s worth showing the agreement to your business or personal lawyer, whom you trust. If and when you do return the written agreement, you usually have to include the retainer check required as your initial payment.

Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.

Men need to smarten up in Divorce

Refer Chicago Tribune February 01, 2011

Q: Why do men need gender-specific advice about not making stupid mistakes when facing divorce?

A: Technically, any of the 10 items below can pertain to either gender. However, you find these mistakes occurring in far greater numbers for men.

Q: What mistakes top the list?

A: One of the worst mistakes would definitely be doing a sloppy job on financial records. Taking care of these documents is pivotal to the outcome of the divorce settlement, in particular, the statement of income, expenses and property. All of these documents become part of the court record and ultimately determine the amount of maintenance and child support that is paid, and who lives in the house.

A lot of guys are way too casual about this step and just don’t give it the attention that they should. You might have to pay a little more on the front end in attorney fees, but at the end of the day, not being attentive to these financial records can be one of the costliest mistakes a client can make.

The 10 no-nos

Here’s a snapshot of the advice readers will find in lawyer Joseph Cordell’s “The 10 Stupidest Mistakes Men Make When Facing Divorce.”

Here’s a snapshot of mistakes men often make, from attorney Joseph Cordell’s book:

1. Moving out before divorce proceedings begin. “In custody contests, the continued daily interaction with your children and intimate awareness of the details of their day is key.”

2. Choosing the wrong lawyer. “It’s reasonable to ask lawyers how many divorces they have tried.”

3. Waiting for your wife to file. “Judges, even after all their legal training and experience, are still prone to give a lot of weight to the story they hear first.”

4. Concealing information. “Your lawyer needs to know anything and everything your wife might say about you to hurt you or your case.”

5. Neglecting the children. “Part of your duty during divorce proceedings, and well after the ink has dried on the divorce decree, is to protect both parents’ relationships with the kids.”

6. Doing a sloppy job on financial records. Sloppy financial reporting, Cordell writes, can hurt your credibility during the divorce proceedings.

7. Talking too much, especially to your wife. “Avoid talking to other people, too, especially family and friends, and in-laws most of all.”

8. Revealing too much on the Internet. “The Web is the worst place to keep a secret. And anything can be subject to misinterpretation.”

9. Failing to fully engage in your case. “Listen to your attorney, and ask questions if you don’t understand anything.”

10. Being ill-prepared. “Don’t avoid preparing to testify or be interviewed just because you’re nervous or uncomfortable or don’t want to think about it.”

Steven W. Hair, focuses his practice as a divorce attorney, family law attorney in Clearwater, Palm Harbor, and Safety Harbor.

For more information, visit our website at www.FamilyLawClearwater.com
or call (727) 726-0797.